Conscience: “a personal sense of the moral content of one’s own conduct, intentions, or character
with regard to a feeling of obligation to do right or be good. Conscience, usually informed
by acculturation and instruction, is thus generally understood to give intuitively authoritative judgments regarding the moral quality of single actions.”
Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008. Encyclopedia Britannica Online
“Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it.”–Probverbs 22:6
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but *words* can break my heart.”
“…how can YOU speak good things, when YOU are wicked? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”— Matt 12: 34, 35
The cumulative effect of all of this seemingly innocuous, funny ha-ha mendacity is that it slowly, insidiously, bit by tiny bit, transforms potential friends and talented individuals into frightened, uncertain, helpless victims. Victimization leads to frustration. Frustration leads to anger. Anger devolves into resignation. Resignation leads to self-loathing and creates The 21st Century Zombie. Going through the motions of living on the outside. Dead on the inside.
It’s a slow and wretched existence. First of all, the psychological and emotional energy it takes damping down all that pain, reigning it all in– persevering and enduring, often with no end in sight every day. It. Is. EXHAUSTING!
Job only had to endure his torment three years. So did Jesus Christ.
Because you’re the victim, you have to do all the work. No one must ever know you’re angry, annoyed, disappointed, hurt, scared– fighting the good fight all by yourself in your head and in your heart.
Second, if you fail to understand how victimization works– Poof! All of a sudden you’re not only a problem, you’re the one with the problem. You’re the difficult person, the malcontent, the complainer, the irritating source of all the friction. You don’t know how to “go with the flow.” You’re INFLEXIBLE! Everybody has bad stuff happen to them. You need to develop a “thick skin.” You have only yourself to blame. You should stand up for yourself!
“How does it feel to be a problem?”– W.E.B. DuBois, The Souls of Black Folk
These young people know: Tyler Clementi, Megan Meier, and Hope Witsell, just a few of the former members of the sad and tragic fratority of the walking wounded– the living dead. Then there are the countless unnamed victims who dull their pain with alcohol and drugs and sexual promiscuity or acting out rages. “How does it feel to be a problem?”
How does it feel How does it feel To be on your own With no direction home Like a complete unknown Like a rolling stone?— Bob Dylan
There are so many more stories like theirs in the naked city and silent suburbs. Not only are children, teens and young adults bullied in schools and on college campuses all across America, but adults are being bullied in the workplace as well. People with children, and car notes, and student loans, and mortgages, and credit cards to repay are being forced to quit their jobs (another form of suicide) to escape the harrassment.
It’s neither fun nor funny to deliberately or maliciously make another human being feel like a victim, to kill their spirit. When someone physically assaults you, or steals your property, or you lose a limb as a result of medical incompetence or malpractice, the law’s the remedy for you. But when someone hurts, or assaults, or maims, or lacerates your feelings, where’s the remedy for you?
“Ouch! That hurt my feelings! Quick! Call the police!?”
Society says you just need to suck it up, act like an adult, shake it off, grow up, be a man, turn the other cheek, give it to God. But when mean people, their lies and their hateful machinations interfere with your ability to sustain or even have quality of life itself– when it interferes with your pursuit of happiness– it’s a tad harder to just shake off.
And the effort. It takes soo much out of you, requires soo much energy. It’s soo exhausting. Nowadays not even your home is a safe haven, or shelter from the storms or respite to recharge and gain your bearings and endure another day. There’s a note posted on your door. A message on your answering machine. An email in your inbox. A text on your mobile phone. A video on Youtube.
They’re following you home.
You want a friend you- can rely on One who will never fade away And if you’re searching for an answer Stick around. I say It’s coming up, it’s coming up Its coming up like a flower Its coming up. Yeah– Paul McCartney and Wings
No rest for the weary.
What needs to be talked about more, everywhere, is being of good character and valuing a good conscience. Having a good FICA score is not an indicator of good character! All that demonstrates is that you can pay your bills. And yet, that’s all we publically associate character with– a record of bill paying. No wonder no one really cares or has any regard for how anybody feels any more.
C’mon People now, Smile on your BrotherEverybody get together, try to love one another right now!Right now!Right now!